You're Not That Black...

That’s what I was told yesterday by one of the Engineering Manager’s sons. He’s 8, and has some disorder that’s like autism, but very different. There’s a name for it, but I can’t remember. He’s got a killer memory, and can talk the hind legs of a cat!

The last time he came to the office to visit, he told me I was cute, asked if I had a boyfriend and became infatuated with my hair…..so anyways, he came in the office again yesterday, cos him and his dad were going to a football match. He pulls up a chair beside my desk, and he’s talking away. He sees my tattoos and asks how long I’ve had em, so I told him, I got the one on my arm when I was 16, and the other about 2 years ago….then he looks at my arm, and then says ‘You’re not that black’….I thought I heard wrong, so I’m like ‘Sorry-what was that?’ He repeats it, and then goes on to say ‘ well you know black people-they’re like….black…but you’re tanned’ I had to laugh….I was like ‘right, ok’ …then he got up, and went up to his dad’s office-but not before he had my foot up his ass! Sike! LOL! I’m messing!! I didn’t hurt him…he kept throwing compliments my way!
Him: ‘How old are you?’
Me: ‘25’
Him: ‘REALLY? You don’t look it! You look about 18!!’
Bless him, I need him to come in the office to flatter me some more!! LOL!

So apparently, I’m not black…I’m tanned….in the eyes of this 8 year old!

Came into work this morning, parked my car in a space, as I do, walk into the building, and the Bossman’s PA/Financial Controller/Queen Pin/Top Dog…(you get my drift) comes running down….she needs me to do her a ‘favour’. In the Business Park that my building in located in, parking is pretty scarce considering pretty much everyone who works in the office has a car, plus there’s the company vans etc. This is made worse by the fact that they (who they are I dunno) have decided to renew the water pipes, that run in front of the building so that’s half of the spaces gone. There’s a Tigra parked in one of our spaces….now bossman’s PA does not ramp when it comes to badding up people who park in our spaces. She’ll leave notes on your car, curse you the f*ck out….and in this instance get someone with a Smart Car to block your ass in!



I’m not gonna pretend I’m not slightly concerned…what if the owner of this car is a crazed psycho who’ll ram and ram until he gets out? I’d kill a mofo who f*cks up my car….but hey, if anything pops off, my company better dig into the phat ass money pocket and cough up for any repairs on my car!!

This is Tom_Gurl officially back from Blog Vacay!

Blog Vacay

I'm going on Blog vacation (cos it seems to be the only kinda vacay I can get right now) Shouldn't be for too long....if something interesting happens this vacay won't last too long...I've got some crap I need to sort out, so I'm gonna go do that. I will, of course be checking in with my blog fam though!! See you in a few.. .

Oh and can I share that this morning on my way to work, my Smartie:(the pic is not my actual car, but it looks exactly like this:)
Was almost crushed by one of these:

As I was driving up the road...Smartie (with me in it) was almost the sandwich meat between that big ole ting above, and this big ole ting:

Please beleive I almost cacked my pants!!

Ok peoples...Tom_Gurl has LEFT the building! Don't miss me too much! :)

Nothing

I've nothing to say...no ideas for a post....my brain is not functioning....work seems to be excessively busy for NO good reason, I'm tired alllll the time...to be honest I'm just soooooo fed up! I need a vacation (that I can't afford)...

*Sigh*

Guess I'll get back to work then.....

A Question....

Ok, so I've tried wording, and re-wording this question so it makes sense...but I can't get it right....here it goes anyway...I'm sure you smart and intellectual people will get what I'm trying to ask:

Do you think that someone with father issues has insecurities, and issues that they carry over into a relationship?

Do you think some one with unresolved father issues can ever truly be happy?

What's your take on unresolved father issues...and how do you reckon one can truly be in a happy relationship (or just happy) with so much hanging over one's head?

Y'all know I'm talking bout me here...I'm struggling ALOT right now...I've realised a few things, and I'm not liking it at all..but I don't know what to do...I'll get into that another day...but what do you reckon? And please be honest!

Looking Back

So today, I decided to change my blog skin.....and managed to lose much of my blogroll, and had to spend AAAAGGGGEEESSS trying to recover em (sorry if I've missed you off...you'll get back there soon) and added a few more along the way!!

But anyways, I was looking at previous posts, and came across
this post which was days after I broke up with Mr Man (remember him??lol!!) and Ms Diva said 'Won't be long before you're saying Mr Man whooooo?' Who would have thought it would have been a couple of weeks later that Soldier would enter into my life and we'd be dating and things?! I didn't even realise that I broke up with Mr Man in July and was dating Soldier in August...I could've sworn it was longer! -what am I like?!And Miss Diva-I really am like...Mr Man whooooo??

And oh-all of you loving people cussed me down to the ground about my smoking....but I can proudly announce that I have now gone 78 days without a cigarette!!! Yay for me! And for the record I have no cravings at all...infact I now dispise the smell of cigarette....they say ex-smokers are the worst, and I believe that....They are gross!

So here's to a smoke free, exercise filled (ahem) year ahead!

Hope you all have a great weekend!!!

I've Been Tagged

The rules of the game are:
A). Link to the person that tagged you and post the rules on your blog...
B). Tag 7 random people at the end of your post and include links to their blogs...
C). Let each person know that they've been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.
'D). "NO TAG BACKS"

I was tagged by Miss Diva (she’s actually called Opinionated Diva…but I don’t call her that)

Two Names I go by:
1. Milz
2. Aunty Kima (by my cousin who couldn’t pronounce my name when she was younger-she just turned 7 and hasn’t even tried to figure what my name is…Aunty Kima it is then!)

Two Things You Are Wearing Right Now:
1. Black jumper with silver stripes
2. My favourite black Nike trainers

Two Things You Would Want (or have) in a Relationship:
1. Friendship
2. Good conversation

Two of your favorite things to do:
1. Travel
2. Laugh

Two things you want very badly at the moment:
1. A hug from soldier
2. To be totally debt free (and actually have money left in the bank more than 2 days after payday!)

Two pets you had/have:1. My grandparents dog named Max-he was the best! But he had Diabetes and had to be put down….(though I don’t understand why he wasn’t just given meds..but anyways)
2. My brother’s dogs..Tyson & Hustle
(as you can see I’ve never had my own pet…but those count!)

Two people you think will fill this out:
1.I have
2. no idea

Things that you did last night:
1) Went to visit the fam (Mum, siblings & grandparents)
2) Spent a VERY nice evening with Soldier

Two things you ate today:
1. Cup of tea (I know it’s not food but it’s only 9am….so….)
2. 2 cookies (to dunk in the tea…mmm very nice!)

Two people you last talked to:
1. Soldier
2. The IT guy

Two things you're doing tomorrow:
1. Working
2. Chilling with Soldier

Two longest car rides:
1. London to Portsmouth
2. London to Birmingham

Two favorite holidays:
1. Any holiday that means I have a day off
2. See above

Favorite beverages:
1. Lemonade
2. Tea (with cookies to dunk!)

Person no longer alive who you'd like to talk to:
1. My God-brother Aaron
2. My Aunt Honey

People being tagged: Any & Everyone who hasn't already been tagged!

7 Years...Remembering

Today is my cousin’s 7th birthday. Today is also the 7th anniversary of the death of my Granny’s best friend’s grandson. He died exactly 12 hours after my lil cousin was born….

I remember it like it was yesterday. He had sickle cell, and had a crisis a couple days before, and was admitted into hospital. Apparently he hadn’t been taking his meds properly-if at all.

I was living with my aunty at the time, and I remember her coming into my room telling me her waters had broken. We called the ambulance….they came, and we headed off to the hospital. By the time we got to the hospital, my aunty was 7cm dialated…..In the next half hour my lil cousin popped out (literally)….the training nurse didn’t even get to put on her 2nd glove before my cousin flew out!!! She was born at 8.30am on 8th January 2001.

12 hours later in a hospital an hour away from where my cousin was born, lil D took his final breath…..8.30pm on 8th January 2001.

It was a day filled with happiness followed by sadness. Both my granny and his granny are convinced that lil D was waiting for my cousin to arrive, before he went…..they do say that with every birth, there is a death…and this was the case.

We all felt so guilty being happy that my cousin was here, when a family we knew very closely were feeling such heartache…it was almost unbelieveable.

8th January 2008 marks the 7th year….of a life brought into this world, and a life that left it……Lil D-you’ll never be forgotten….Continue to Rest In Peace……Happy Birthday Miss T-my favourite lil cousin!!

8th January…forever a day filled with emotions…